From Managing to Mentoring: Multiplying the Moment with Meaning

Jesper Jurcenoks reflects on 1.5 years of transformation inside the Radical Honesty Institute - and shares the personal dream he's building through Radical Sincerity.

Retreat property in the Sierra foothills

From Managing to Mentoring: Multiplying the Moment with Meaning

Dear Radical Honesty community and curious newcomers,

Jesper here. This post is a personal reflection on the past 1.5 years - a journey through service, challenge, and recommitment inside the Radical Honesty Institute (RHI).

Cleaning house - closing all longstanding accountability cases - together with the creation of our new Code of Ethics, led to a cultural shift: no new accountability cases have emerged. This was a long-overdue healing process that made the community safer and more aligned with our values.

Reading the heart-wrenching witness statements left a permanent mark on my soul. The stories, and the courage behind them, will inform my actions for the rest of my life.

As Managing Director, I served as glue within the Owners Circle and became a lightning rod for frustration - caught between those pushing for faster reform and those concerned about the pace and direction of our change.

I also made mistakes - some of which cost me sleepless nights. It’s not the mistakes themselves I grow from, but what I do with them.

Jesper Jurcenoks in Florida, 2019

I helped resolve longstanding cases, co-created a new Code of Ethics, filed trademark paperwork, removed our delinquent legal status, and helped establish formal bylaws - all of which laid a stronger foundation for our future.

It is with great humility that I have accepted the invitation to become a co-owner of the Radical Honesty Institute. I now also serve on the Board of Directors and am focusing on the Marketing Circle to grow our aligned participant pipeline.

A Personal Dream in Motion

Back in 2018, I made a Radical Honesty life plan. It included finding a nature retreat, leaving computer security, mentoring full time, and building a meaningful online space.

✅ I now have a large retreat property in the Sierra foothills.
✅ I’ve mostly left computer security.
🔄 I’m writing, building, mentoring.
🔄 My dream continues to unfold.

From July 2020 to December 2023, I led 175 Radical Honesty fellowships. I co-led 8-week courses, supported trainer training, and was welcomed as a trainer candidate despite the program being closed.

Now, I’m developing Radical Sincerity at RadicalSincerity.org - a healing and mentoring practice rooted in honesty, care, and recovery from codependency and family dysfunction.

With gratitudeJesper Jurcenoks
By Jesper Jurcenoks

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